Frequently Asked (Anonymous) Questions

While traditional sex therapy focuses on talk therapy, addressing psychological or emotional factors affecting sexuality, somatic sexology emphasizes the body and physical experiences. Somatic sexologists guide clients to become more aware of their body's sensations, emotions, and movements, facilitating healing and transformation through embodied practices.

No, you do not need to have a specific problem to benefit from Somatic Sexology. Many clients choose this approach simply to enhance their sexual well-being, deepen intimacy, or explore their body more fully. It’s an approach that can be useful for anyone looking to connect more deeply with their sexuality, whether or not there are particular issues to address.

Yes, somatic sexologists often use bodywork as part of the process, which may include touch, breathwork, movement, and guided exercises. However, touch is always consensual and varies based on the individual’s comfort level. Some practices may involve exploring body sensations through clothed or non-intrusive touch. It’s important to discuss and set clear boundaries with a practitioner beforehand.

Somatic sexologists adhere to a strict code of ethics that prioritizes consent, safety, and professionalism. Practitioners are trained to create a safe and respectful environment for clients, ensuring that boundaries are clear and respected throughout the process. It’s important to choose a certified and experienced practitioner to ensure a safe and effective experience

Each session is unique, but typically, you can expect:

• A discussion about your concerns or goals

• A focus on body awareness, sensations, and breathwork

• Guidance through exercises to release tension or blockages in the body

• Exploration of emotions and their connection to sexual experiences

• Reflection and feedback on physical and emotional experiences

• Education on how to integrate somatic practices into daily life for greater sexual health

Yes, somatic sexology can complement other therapeutic practices, including talk therapy, couples therapy, or medical treatments. It can be an effective adjunct to help address issues related to body awareness, sexual trauma, or emotional intimacy, offering a more holistic approach to healing.

No, somatic sexology can benefit individuals both with and without a partner. It’s about developing a deeper connection to your own body, desires, and boundaries. You can work on your own sexual health, pleasure, and emotional well-being independently.

While somatic sexology and Tantra may share some similarities in terms of body awareness, breathwork, and energy flow, they are not the same. Tantra is a spiritual and philosophical practice that can include sexual energy as part of a larger worldview. Somatic sexology, on the other hand, is a therapeutic approach that focuses specifically on sexuality, the body, and its role in well-being and healing.

Yes, somatic practices can help address the root causes of performance anxiety or erectile dysfunction (ED) by reducing tension, promoting relaxation, and reconnecting individuals to their bodies. Somatic sexologists may use breathing techniques, mindfulness practices, and gentle touch to help relax the nervous system, release anxiety, and increase pleasure without the pressure to perform.

• Breathwork: Using controlled breath to relax the body, enhance sensation, and release emotional blockages.

• Mindful movement: Exploring how movement can unlock sexual energy and deepen connection to the body.

• Pelvic floor exercises: Strengthening the muscles involved in sexual function and pleasure.

• Tantric practices: Using energy and body awareness to increase intimacy and connection (though not always part of somatic sexology).

• Guided touch: Non-intrusive touch to help individuals release tension or reconnect with their sexual selves.

No, somatic sexology can be beneficial for anyone interested in enhancing their sexual well-being, pleasure, and connection to their body. It’s not just for people facing sexual problems—many people seek somatic sexology to deepen intimacy, explore new levels of sexual pleasure, or overcome body image issues.

Yes, somatic sexology is often used to help individuals heal from sexual trauma by gently guiding them through body-based techniques to release stored trauma, increase body awareness, and reclaim sexual agency. The work is slow, respectful, and focuses on empowering individuals to re-establish trust with their bodies.

Clients are expected to engage openly and honestly with the practitioner about their experiences, emotions, and boundaries. It’s important to be willing to explore physical sensations, emotional states, and any discomfort that arises. The following are typically expected of clients:

• Openness and honesty: Be willing to share what you feel, both physically and emotionally, as the session progresses.

• Active participation: Engage in the exercises, breathwork, and body awareness practices that are designed to enhance your sexual well-being.

• Setting boundaries: Clearly communicate any boundaries, discomfort, or limits you have regarding physical touch or the direction of the session.

• Self-awareness: Pay attention to how your body feels during the session, including any sensations, emotions, or memories that might arise.

Consent is paramount in Somatic Sexology. All sessions are conducted with full, enthusiastic, and ongoing consent from the client. Clients are encouraged to communicate their comfort levels and boundaries at all times. If at any point during the session something feels uncomfortable, clients are encouraged to express it, and the session will adjust accordingly.

Not necessarily. Clothing typically stays on during most sessions, especially in the initial phases. However, certain techniques, like bodywork or pelvic floor exercises, may require partial disrobing. If any touch is involved, it is typically non-intrusive and done with explicit consent. The practitioner will always discuss this in advance and work within the boundaries you're comfortable with.

Preparation involves being open to the experience and setting clear intentions for the session. Here are some ways to prepare:

• Set personal intentions: Reflect on what you hope to gain from the session, whether it’s healing from trauma, increasing intimacy, or learning about your own body.

• Clear your mind: Arrive in a relaxed state, allowing yourself to be present in the session. This can involve meditation, breathwork, or grounding exercises.

• Communicate any concerns: Be honest about any worries or fears you might have before the session starts so the practitioner can help set you up for success.

• Dress comfortably: Wear loose, comfortable clothing that allows you to move freely.

Your comfort is the priority. If any technique or exercise feels uncomfortable, it’s important to communicate that immediately. Practitioners are trained to adjust the approach according to your comfort level. If you’re unsure about a technique beforehand, it’s completely fine to ask questions or express any concerns.

The level of physical touch in a Somatic Sexology session can vary depending on the practitioner and the specific goals of the session. While touch is often used, especially in somatic bodywork, it is always consensual and guided by the client’s comfort and boundaries. Touch, whilst can be intimate, is typically non-sexual and focused on helping you become more aware of your body and its sensations.

Yes, some practitioners may recommend homework exercises or self-care practices between sessions to help reinforce the body awareness and techniques explored during the session. This might include:

• Journaling your thoughts or feelings about your sexual experiences

• Practicing mindfulness or breathwork exercises

• Engaging in movement practices that enhance body connection

• Using pelvic floor exercises or stretching to relieve tension

• Exploring sexual pleasure on your own in a safe and comfortable setting

You may start to notice shifts in your body awareness, sexual responses, and emotional state over time. These changes might be subtle or more pronounced, but clients typically report an increased sense of relaxation, improved sexual pleasure, greater emotional connection, and an overall shift in how they experience their body and sexuality. Be patient with the process—it can take time for the benefits to fully unfold.

Yes, it’s completely normal to feel nervous or embarrassed, especially if you’re new to Somatic Sexology. Practitioners understand that exploring sexuality can bring up emotions like shame, guilt, or embarrassment. A skilled practitioner will create a non-judgmental, supportive environment where you can feel comfortable expressing these feelings. The more you share, the more empowered you’ll be to heal and grow.

Results from Somatic Sexology can vary and depend on the individual’s goals and level of openness. Some people may feel a shift after just one session, while for others, it may take time to process emotions or fully integrate the bodywork techniques. Healing and growth in this field often unfold gradually, and consistency is key.

Absolutely! You are encouraged to ask questions if you are unsure about a technique, feeling something unexpected, or curious about the process. A good practitioner will make sure you feel informed, respected, and empowered throughout the session.

If you have a history of sexual trauma or abuse, it’s crucial to feel safe and supported. A practitioner will take a trauma-informed approach, working at a pace that feels comfortable for you. They will provide a compassionate, non-judgmental space to help you process and heal. Techniques may focus on safety, grounding, and reclaiming your body. If you're not ready to address trauma, that’s okay too—sessions can evolve as you feel ready.

Yes, Somatic Sexology can be a great tool for couples looking to improve their sexual connection. Techniques used in sessions can help you and your partner:

• Improve communication about needs and desires

• Reconnect physically and emotionally

• Release tension or unresolved emotions

• Explore new ways of experiencing sexual pleasure together

For couples, both partners may engage in some sessions individually and others together.